All babies are held, kissed and cuddled. Yet at some stage we often stop doing this with boys.  Being a ‘man’ they have been trained to believe means you have no need of intimacy, to be held, caressed and fondled.  Loving and tender relationships are something that females only are allowed.  Men soon learn that their need for love, affection and tenderness is allowed expression through sex.  They crave an intimacy that has been denied them and often that craving is on a subconscious level.

They are allowed to express their Mars sex drive but are forbidden from acknowledging the Venus drive to be held, caressed and fondled that lies behind those needs and drives.  Men are allowed to scatter their seed but not to seek intimacy and affection, at least not openly.  They are allowed to hug their partner and show them affection when they need it but they are not allowed to acknowledge their own need to be held and touched.

In astrology this is represented by the removal of their Venus in the natal chart pertaining to them and their need for intimacy and is projected onto an ideal partner.  But it is their Venus and it always belonged to them.  They have a right to own their needs and to express their desire for intimacy, to be caressed, held and touched.  Those needs are an important part of all intimacy not just sex.  Sexual fulfilment for men means those Venus needs must be embraced and valued as an important aspect of who they are as virile, sensual beings seeking intimacy with another.

Venus in Aries Male is attracted to dynamic partners who are intense and passionate go-getters.  They like those with a fiery temperament and an honest emotional expression.

Their dream lover is the warrior fighting for justice, the poor and the vulnerable, whether that is through political activism, charitable organisations or through speaking out on injustice / whistle blowing.  They are attracted to those who speak their minds and are unafraid to honestly express what they want or who they want.

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Aphrodite and Ares or Venus and Mars had an illicit relationship throughout Venus’s marriage, before her divorce and subsequent marriage to Mars.  Both Venus and Mars rule instinctual responses and Venus’s first marriage was to fulfil a promise made by Zeus / Jupiter which started in good faith but neither of these planets can over-come their instinctual responses.  Some of which are essential such as protecting our offspring, which as you can see from the following myth is something associated with Aries.

Athamas the Minyan, a founder of Halos in Thessaly, took as his first wife the cloud goddess Nephele. They had two children, the boy Phrixus (whose name means “curly”—as in ram’s fleece) and the girl Helle. Later Athamas became enamored of and married Ino, the daughter of Cadmus. When Nephele left in anger, drought came upon the land.

Ino was jealous of her stepchildren and plotted their deaths: in some versions, she persuaded Athamas that sacrificing Phrixus was the only way to end the drought. Nephele, or her spirit, appeared to the children with a winged ram whose fleece was of gold. The ram had been sired by Poseidon in his primitive ram-form upon a nymph called Theophane.  Poseidon carried Theophane to an island where he made her into an ewe, so that he could procreate with her among the flocks. There Theophane’s other suitors could not distinguish the ram-god and his consort.

Nepheles’ children escaped on the winged ram over the sea, but Helle fell off and drowned in the strait now named after her, the Hellespont. The ram spoke to Phrixus, encouraging him, and took the boy safely to Colchis, on the easternmost shore of the Black sea.   Phrixus sacrificed the winged ram to Poseidon, essentially returning him to the god. The ram became the constellation Aries.

Venus in Taurus needs a lover that is sensuous, natural and very responsive to physical stimuli.  Those with these aspects need lovers who are passionate about good food, nice music and the feel of fabrics against their skin.  They seek those that understand the need for consistency in sexual expression, they seek those with a strong and consistent sex drive.  They need a lover who can commit long-term and who can be relied upon to express their sexual and emotional needs in a natural and emotionally honest way.

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The Great Golden Bull of heaven presided over the spring Equinox in ancient times and thus was the symbol along with Inanna (Venus) of fertility and renewal of the earth.  The auroch a wild bull was worshipped in ancient times for its strength and wild spirit, the animal could not be tamed or conquered and its horns were sacred and may have been used to symbolise virility, this extinct animal may be the foundation of some of the unicorn myths and is most probably the unicorn mentioned in the bible.  The unicorn is renowned for its healing properties, strength, wildness and attraction to virgins (Virgo the another fertile earth sign).  Whether you see yourself as the virile, wild and untamable auroch or the more gentle Unicorn you have a magic all of your own.

Venus in Gemini needs a lover who is light-hearted, communicative, imaginative and flirty.  They like someone who is constantly evolving and adapting to the ebb and flow of life, with a constantly evolving and changing thoughts and interests.  They need a lover who is unafraid to experiment and try out new ideas, one who is capable of surprising or shocking them at times.  They look for a partner who will be openly positive about variety and new experiences whether these are in the bedroom or trying out a new restaurant.

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With Venus in Gemini you will identify with the story of Androgyne.

The original human nature was not like the present, but different. The sexes were not two, as they are now, but originally three in number; there was man, woman, and a union of the two […] Terrible was their might and strength, and the thoughts of their hearts were great, and they dared to scale the heavens, and they made an attack on the Gods.

Venus in Cancer needs a lover that is emotionally sensitive and empathic to their needs.  They need to feel an emotional bond that allows them to express their feelings without judgement.  Venus in this sign requires great sensitivity from their partner to their emotional fears and need for affection and love.  These individuals require a commitment and emotional bond from their lover.  Their lover has to understand their need for emotional security and trust within a relationship.

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Yuchi a native American tribe held to the belief in northern cosmogony — an upper world, containing the Elders of men and animals, and a waste of waters below. Animal after animal attempts to bring up earth from the deep, until, in this legend, the crayfish (Cancer) succeeds in lifting to the surface the embryonic ball whence Earth is to grow.

The myth of the Yuchi denotes Cancer’s prominence as the womb or nurturer.  Cancer also contains another symbol that of Yin and Yang, we all possess each of these two energies; dark and light, male and female, and these energies ebb and flow within us in a constantly changing direction as we struggle to balance the energies of the white wolf with the black wolf.  Cancer may also have been connected in its role as womb to Ningal Wife of Nanna (Sumerian moon God), Ningal gave birth to the Sun god Utu.  Ningal was also the mother of Inanna (Venus) twin of Utu (Sun). Venus in this sign has returned to her mother’s womb a place of safety and security for her.

Venus in Leo needs a partner who can feel comfortable socializing and is confident enough to sparkle in company and entertain others with their tales and antics.  They need a partner with dignity and self-respect who has a natural grace and presence.  They also need to have loyalty and trust, a large heart and plenty of love.  They need a partner that can express deep love and affection and who is capable of giving their all in a relationship.

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The Tibetan mythical Snow Lion resides in the East and represents unconditional cheerfulness, a mind free of doubt, clear and precise. It has a beauty and dignity resulting from a body and mind that are synchronized. The Snow Lion has a youthful, vibrant energy of goodness and a natural sense of delight. Sometimes the throne of a Buddha is depicted with eight Snow Lions on it, in this case, they represent the 8 main Bodhisattva-disciples of the historical Buddha. Associations: main quality is fearlessness, dominance over mountains, and the earth element. The Snow Lion does not fly but their feet never touch the ground; their existence is a playful ‘continuum’ (Tibetan: rgyud) of leaping from mountain peak to mountain peak. The energetic potency (wisdom) of the Snow Lion is expressed in the attribute of the gakyil (‘bliss+whirling’ or ‘wheel of joy’) that the Snow Lion keeps in eternal play.  This is a good summation of those with Venus in Leo, they are playful, cheery, free of doubt and energise those around them with their joy and wisdom.

Venus in Virgo needs a discerning partner, they need someone with graceful manners, intellect and above all sensuality.  Venus in this sign is very sensual and needs a partner who can respond to that sensuality, they are very refined in their tastes because of this and need a partner who understands their physical sensitivity.  Venus in Virgo has an acute sense of taste, smell and touch and is responsive when those senses are stimulated but easily put off when they are offended.  They need a partner that shares their fine appreciation of natural quality, these individuals do not require fancy but they do need quality.  They need quality of stimulation and sensual delights.  They need a lover that treats their body as a banquet and they will return that favour.

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Venus is very much at home in Virgo, the heavenly furrow was the cosmological representation of Ninlil the Sumerian cereal Goddess, wife of Enlil who fertilised her furrows in pretty graphic detail.

In the sleeping quarters, in the flowered bed fragrant like a cedar forest, Enlil made love to his wife and took great pleasure in it. He sat her on his dais appropriate to the status of Enlil, and made the people pray to her. The lord whose statements are powerful also determined a fate for the Lady (Aruru), the woman of his favour; he gave her the name Nintur, the ‘Lady who gives birth’, the ‘Lady who spreads her knees’. (…) Proud woman, surpassing the mountains! You who always fulfil your desires—from now on, Sud, Enlil is the king and Ninlil is the queen. The goddess without name has a famous name now,

Venus in Libra needs a lover who is socially adaptable, romantic, understanding, empathic and graceful.  They are very particular about behaviour they are fine with wacky and original expression but have a great deal of disdain for sleazy exhibitionists.  These individuals need a partner who is dignified and has a great deal of self-respect. Grace Kelly had Venus in Libra, and symbolises many of the attributes of grace, style, adaptability and intelligence that Venus in Libra needs in a partner.

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The Scales represent Mother Ceres in her role of protector and administrator of justice as she weighs life and right in her scales, as such although Libra is an air sign it still contains an earthy sensual quality of its patrons Ceres and Venus.  Venus in Libra is capable of being very sensual and passionate in expression.  Libra in Babylonian times was part of the constellation of Scorpio and those scales weighing life and right still contain Plutonian themes, Venus in Libra is very aware of the intensities of desire that exist within their own soul which is why they relate so well to others.  Libra begins at the equinox and at this point Persephone returns to her husband Pluto and the earth itself begins to reabsorb the vegetation and nutrients back within the soil to be broken down and recycled in time for spring.  Venus in Libra individuals to break down and reabsorb the world around them through their relationships in an eternal cycle of change and growth.

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Venus in Scorpio needs a partner who can express the depth of their emotions and meet their need to bond exclusively in a physical and emotional union of the soul.  These individuals need to feel a deep connection to their partner and they need someone who has a depth of emotional response, intensity and passion that meets their own.  They need a partner who is completely there emotionally and understands the need to connect at a soul level.  These partners need to understand that for them it is all or nothing. The physical act of love-making is all about connecting to halves to become a complete whole, only those that can understand this aspect of their nature will do.

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In ancient times the signs of Taurus and Scorpio represented the spring and autumn equinox.

The goddess Ereshkigal ruling the underworld and the non-productive part of the natural cycle when the earth reabsorbs the vegetation and recycles the nutrients.  Ereshkigal’s husband Gulganna the heavenly bull representing the fertile aspect of the cycle. Ereshkigal is often described as Innana’s (Venus) big sister and the Myth of Inanna and Dumuzi involves replenishing the earth through giving up the seven auras or energies of life itself.  Innana (Venus) herself gives up these auras and returns them to fertilise the soil before Dumuzi takes her place.  Venus in Scorpio is well aware of the need to nurture and replenish the natural energies within relationship and of the balance of natural cycle within themselves. Venus here understands the importance of themes of death and regeneration as a means of continuing the fertility of the natural cycle and allowing growth to continue.

Venus in Sagittarius needs a partner who can express the joyous physical union of two souls as part of the celebration of life. Venus in Sagittarius needs a partner who is comfortable being themselves without the need to impress, who can just be themselves and express a natural exuberance at the joy and pleasure of love.  These individuals need to feel comfortable with a partner, they are restricted if they feel their partner may be narrow-minded or prudish.  Sagittarius needs to feel comfortable expressing themselves with a partner, without fear of judgement.

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These individuals are attracted to those with exuberance, physical energy and a large sense of humour.

Sagittarius corresponds with the God Pabilsag who has strong connections to the lost city of Larak as its patron deity.  Pabilsag was called the warrior of Enlil and had the body of a Scorpion and the upper portion of a man.  The meaning of his name like everything else about Pabilsag is uncertain. Much of his mythology is unknown and yet to be discovered something most Venus in Sagittarius will find interesting for they love to explore and investigate.

The wild bull with brindled thighs, whose house is noble! My king, the wild bull with brindled thighs, whose house is noble! Pabilsaj, the wild bull with brindled thighs, whose house is noble! His house, the house of Larag, is noble, his house is noble! His city, a mighty city, is abundant, and his house is noble! The warrior’s house is the house of Larag; Lord Pabilsaj’s city is a mighty city ……. His birthplace was the shrine Nibru ……. The place where he drank good milk was the house ……. From the place, the pure place, ……. Isin, the unique house ……. The place which the bull embraces ……. Like a scorpion rising up from among the thorns, he is a fearsome scorpion; like a wolf rising up from his lair, he is likely to growl; like a lion rising up in the pathway, he is likely to beat …….

Jupiter, Sagittarius’s ruling planet was infamous for his many love affairs.

Venus in Capricorn needs a lover who is deeply sensuous, dignified, committed, elegant and has strong inner strength.  They are deeply sensual individuals who need a partner that can respond to their strong sexual needs and instincts, these individuals seek a lover who admires their stamina and strength and ability to sensually delight their lover.  They also need a lover who is dignified, elegant and sophisticated enough to mingle with the best of them.

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Capricorn is known as the mountain goat, the sea goat and the horn of plenty.  He was connected to the ancient God Enki / Ea as symbolising rulership in his name. Enki’s consort was Ninhursag lady mountain and so as her consort he is also the mountain Goat.  Enki spilt his seed on lady mountain to fertilise the land, the rivers of the Euphrates and Tigris especially represent his semen or waters of life that fertilised the land. Since he was responsible for the fertile crescent in mythology he is also the horn of plenty.  Representing the Apsu as partner of the Tiamet he is the sea goat.  Venus in this sign is assuming the identity of an ancient and potent symbol of fertility and Virility.

Venus in Aquarius needs a partner who is unique, original, idealistic and uninhibited.  They need a partner who is uninhibited yet not an exhibitionist, Venus in Aquarius is very private when it comes to their emotions and relationships.  They need a partner who is not restricted by social stereotypes but who is also keeps their private life private.  Venus in Aquarius likes honest, open communication and needs a partner who they can talk to about anything without feeling restricted by social norms.

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Aquarius represented the waters of the great one to the Babylonians, Enki / Ea poured his water of life or semen upon his wife Ninhursag (lady mountain) to fertilise the land in particular the rivers of the Euphrates, Tigris and the fertile crescent is associated with the fertile waters of Enki.

Venus is in a sign that represents the fertilisation of the earth through the water cycle, Enki symbolises the magic of the raindrop, the snow flake that falls from the air to merge with the earth.  Aquarius in Ancient times was associated with the shortest day in the northern hemisphere, this time has always been associated with celebration and bringing fertility back to the land through rituals.  Even today we bring greenery into our house at this time of year and one special plant in particular the mistletoe under which we kiss.  The mistletoe was an ancient sacred plant of the druids, that because of its parasitic nature appeared to fall from the heavens and grew without roots on ancient apple trees, the fruit of love.  Venus in Aquarius represents all these ancient perspectives of the sacred fertility of the earth and the air.  This sign understands the sacred act of union as one of bringing regeneration and rebirth to dormant / sleeping passions.

Venus in Pisces Mars in Aries,

Venus in Pisces needs a partner who is capable of giving their all to their relationship.

The fish of Pisces may be connected to Siduri, the Sumerian barmaid Goddess (an incarnation of Venus) who lives at the lip of the sea, this was her advice to Gilgamesh:

Gilgamesh, whither are you wandering? Life, which you look for, you will never find. For when the gods created man, they let death be his share, and life withheld in their own hands. Gilgamesh, fill your belly. Day and night make merry. Let days be full of joy, dance and make music day and night. And wear fresh clothes. And wash your head and bathe. Look at the child that is holding your hand, and let your wife delight in your embrace. These things alone are the concern of men.

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Venus in Pisces needs a partner with whom they can both strip away the layers of who they were until they find the real authentic self.  They require a partner who is willing to go through this process with them, willing to let go of all the emotional baggage they hold as part of their bonding process they want to grow and evolve into their purest ideals as part of a couple.  They are looking for someone who relates intuitive who connects on the deepest emotional levels and who is willing to strip away all the barriers they have erected and merge emotionally and spiritually.  They require a lover that responds completely and intuitively on an emotional level.

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Pisces the fish are also connected to Adapa, the first of the seven Mesopotamian sages, he was a mythical figure who unknowingly refused the gift of immortality.  The sages are described in Mesopotamian literature as ‘pureparādu-fish, probably carp, whose bones are found associated with the earliest shrine, and still kept as a holy duty in the precincts of Near Eastern mosques and monasteries. Adapa as a fisherman was iconographically portrayed as a fish-man composite. The word Abgallu, sage (Ab = water, Gal = great, Lu = man, Sumerian) survived into around the 1st century, as apkallum, used to describe the profession of a certain kind of priest.

Poseidon (Neptune) was in ancient Greece an earth God connected to the fertility cycle, Demeter and Persephone.  In classical Greece he was still referred to as ‘earth shaker’ denoting his passionate earthy nature that lay hidden in mythology.  GAIA The Goddess of the Earth was also a consort of Poseidon. She bore him numerous children including the giants Antaios and Kharybdis.

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needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, passionate and emotionally direct.  They are attracted to strong water and fire in the natal chart.  This is due to their need to express their fiery passionate sex drive with a partner who understands their need to merge as one. Theophane was a daughter of Bisaltes, who, in consequence of her extraordinary beauty, was beleaguered by lovers, but was carried off by Poseidon (Neptune) ruler of Pisces to the isle of Crinissa. As the lovers followed her even there, Poseidon metamorphosed the maiden into a sheep and himself into a ram, and all the inhabitants of the island into animals. As the lovers began to slaughter these animals, he changed them into wolves. The god then became by Theophane the father of the ram with the golden fleece (Aries). This aspect denotes the passion of that tryst. They need a relationship which is unpredictable and full of surprises.  They like to take the lead in sex and prefer their partner to be adaptable.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Taurus,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, sensual and voluptuous. They are attracted to strong water and earth in the natal chart.  This is due to their need to express their abundant earthy sex drive with a partner who understands their need to merge as one. They need a partner who is more volatile and passionate than themselves.  They are consistent in their sexual needs and need a partner that can adapt to them.   Io, changed into a heifer by Zeus and being chased by a gadfly on behalf of the jealous Hera, was passing through Thrace, she gave birth to a girl, Keroessa, on the banks of the Golden Horn, by the altar of the nymph Semestra. Keroessa was reared by Semestra and grew up surpassing other local maidens in beauty. She had a romantic tryst with Poseidon, gave birth to a son, whom she named Byzas. He became the founder of Byzantium.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Gemini,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, fun-loving and imaginative.  They are attracted to strong water and air in the natal chart.  This is due to their need to express their desire for physical union with a partner who understands their need to merge as one.   They need a partner who is more easy going and relaxed.  They are adaptable in their sexual expression and prefer their partner to be the same.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Cancer,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, protective and nurturing.  They are attracted to strong water in the natal chart.  This is due to the need to express their emotional bond through sex with a partner who understands their need to merge as one.  They need a partner who is more volatile and passionate.  They like to take the lead in sex and prefer their partner to adapt to them.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Leo,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, dignified and self-confident.  They are attracted to strong water and fire in the natal chart.  This is due to their need to express their abundant sex drive with a partner who understands their need to merge as one.  They need a relationship that is unpredictable and full of surprises.  They are consistent in their sex drive and prefer a partner that can adapt to their needs.  Caenis, the daughter of Elatus (a Lapith chieftain) and Hippea, was raped by Neptune, who then fulfilled his request to be changed into a man so that he could never be raped again; he also made Caenis invulnerable to weaponry. Caenis then changed his name to Caeneus and became a warrior, traveling all over Thessaly, indomitable through his more-than-human power, his enemies the Centaurs resorted to driving him into the ground with timbers.  Those with this aspect seek a bold heroic partner who refuses to be defeated by life.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Virgo,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, discerning and sensual.  They are attracted to strong water and earth in the natal chart. This is due to their need to express their abundant earthy sex drive with a partner who understands their need to merge as one.  They need a partner with a wide variety of experience. They are adaptable in their sexual needs and prefer their partner to be the same.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Libra,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, elegant and stylish.  They are attracted to strong water and air in the natal chart.  This is due to their need to express their need to unite through sex with a partner who understands their need to merge as one.  They need a relationship which is unpredictable and full of surprises.  They need a relationship which is unpredictable and full of surprises.  They like to take the lead in their sex life and prefer a lover who is adaptable.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Sagittarius,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, adventurous and natural.  They are attracted to strong water and fire in the natal chart.  This is due to their need to express their abundant sex drive with a partner who understands their need to merge as one.   They need a partner who is more relaxed and easy going.  They are adaptable in their sexual expression and prefer a partner who is the same.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Capricorn,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, refined and sensual.  They are attracted to strong water and earth in the natal chart.  This is due to the need to express their huge earthy sex drive with a partner who understands their need to merge as one.   They need a partner who is more volatile and passionate.  They like to take the lead in sex and prefer a partner who can adapt to them.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Aquarius,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, unique and inventive.  They are attracted to strong water and air in the natal chart.  This is due to their need to express their insatiable sex drive with a partner who understands their need to merge as one. They need a relationship which is unpredictable and full of surprises.  They are consistent in their sexual needs and prefer a partner who can adapt to them.

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Venus in Pisces Mars in Pisces,

needs a lover who is intuitive, sensitive, empathic, authentic, and very responsive to their expressions of affection.  They are attracted to strong water in the natal chart.  This is due to the need to express their deep sexual undercurrents with a partner who understands their need to merge as one.  They need a partner who has a wide and varied experience in relationships.  They are very adaptable in their sexual expression and prefer a partner with the same quality.

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