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The word ‘trauma’ is derived from the Greek term for ‘wound’. Very frightening or distressing events may result in a psychological wound or injury, sometimes these events are manageable for many years until something happens and this causes an inner explosion.

An event will most likely lead to emotional or psychological trauma if:

  • It happened unexpectedly.
  • You were unprepared for it.
  • You felt powerless to prevent it.
  • It happened repeatedly.
  • Someone was intentionally cruel.
  • It happened in childhood.

Commonly overlooked causes of emotional and psychological trauma

  • Falls or sports injuries
  • Surgery (especially in the first 3 years of life)
  • The sudden death of someone close
  • A car accident
  • The breakup of a significant relationship
  • A humiliating or deeply disappointing experience
  • The discovery of a life-threatening illness or disabling condition

Trauma is stress run amuck. Stress dis-regulates our nervous systems – but for only a relatively short period of time. Within a few days or weeks, our nervous systems calm down and we revert to a normal state of equilibrium. This return to normalcy is not the case when we have been traumatized. One way to tell the difference between stress and emotional trauma is by looking at the outcome – how much residual effect an upsetting event is having on our lives, relationships, and overall functioning. Traumatic distress can be distinguished from routine stress by assessing the following:

• how quickly upset is triggered
• how frequently upset is triggered
• how intensely threatening the source of upset is
• how long upset lasts
• how long it takes to calm down

Even when unrecognised, emotional trauma can create lasting difficulties in an individual’s life. One way to determine where an emotional or psychological trauma has occurred, perhaps even early in life before language or conscious awareness were in place, is to look at the kinds of recurring problems one might be experiencing. These can serve as clues to an earlier situation that caused trauma.

Common personal and behavioral effects of emotional trauma:
• substance abuse
• compulsive behavior patterns
• self-destructive and impulsive behavior
• uncontrollable reactive thoughts
• inability to make healthy professional or lifestyle choices
• dissociative symptoms (“splitting off” parts of the self)
• feelings of ineffectiveness, shame, despair, hopelessness
• feeling permanently damaged
• a loss of previously sustained beliefs

Common effects of emotional trauma on interpersonal relationships:
• inability to maintain close relationships or choose appropriate friends and mates
• sexual problems
• hostility
• arguments with family members, employers or co-workers
• social withdrawal
• feeling constantly threatened

Over time, even without professional treatment, symptoms of an emotional trauma generally subside, and normal daily functioning gradually returns. However, even after time has passed, sometimes the symptoms don’t go away. Or they may appear to be gone, but surface again in another stressful situation. Experiences of emotional trauma become freeze-framed into an eternal present in which we remain forever trapped, or to which we are condemned to be perpetually returned through the slings and arrows of fate.  The relentless circling back to experiences of emotional trauma is ensured by the finiteness of our existence and the finiteness of all those whom we love. Trauma looms for all of us as an ever-present possibility.  Trauma, in other words, is timeless.  This revisiting over our traumas over again through incidents that bring to mind the original source of our wounds can be helpful in learning to deal with the original Trauma.

Notice how you have changed after a tragedy or crisis. Many people report having more confidence in themselves after a crisis and some even have a deeper appreciation for life. Get what you can out of these tough times.  Realise that as these events reoccur you are more able to deal with them.  It is also possible to be hurt and to rebound at the same time. We human beings are complex enough psychologically to accommodate the two.   You re-examine your life story to see how heroic your acts were as a child. You go back to an incident, find the strengths, and build self-esteem from the achievement. Revisit the Trauma as an adult acknowledge your feelings and perceptions of how this made you feel, but revisit as an adult what was happening at the time, were the adults under stress, were they coping?  Compare how you felt as a child and what you understand as an adult, as a child you had little understanding of how adults react to stress, how realistic is your interpretation of what was happening, often we internalize the blame for events that we had no responsibility for, believing we could or should have done things differently how realistic is this expectation of what we are capable of doing as a child.  We accept that the trauma was not about us personally it was something that happened due to circumstance, that affected us deeply but it was not caused by some inner fault or flaw.  When we face situations that bring the issues of this trauma to the fore ask how realistic are your thoughts how likely are your fears?  Acknowledge this is the voice of the person at the time of the original trauma but you are more able to deal with these unlikely fears even if they happened, you are strong and have survived the original trauma and you are capable of surviving it again, but you will not let it control your life.  Lastly accept that this trauma hurt you painfully and that cannot be changed but it can be let go of and belong to the past and not the present, it will always be a part of your life experience but in letting go and moving on you accept that you have gained from the experience and have the ability and strength to survive further stress and trauma that you have learnt to deal with the issues.

©neptunes aura astrology

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Posted November 25, 2014 by neptune's Aura Astrology in musings

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